Helping Children Cope with Tragedy

Tragedy teaches us that life isn’t perfect. It’s so imperfect, that bad things happen to good people sometimes. A tragic event can offer the opportunity to teach children about empathy, gratitude, and compassion. In addition, as children learn that things may not always be perfect in life, they can also learn to adapt and view setbacks as opportunities to become more resilient.

Here are some tips to help children cope.

• Remain calm

Your child will look to you for cues about how to react. It’s OK for children to see adults sad or crying, but consider excusing yourself if you’re experiencing intense emotions.

• Reassure your children that they are safe

Discuss factors that ensure your children are safe. Make your home a comforting space for your child.

• Limit media exposure

Constantly watching news coverage of a tragedy can heighten anxiety. When older children watch or read news reports on tv or social media, try to do it with them.

• Avoid placing blame

Be careful not to blame a cultural, racial or ethnic group, or people who have mental illnesses.

• Provide Consistency 

This can provide children with a sense of normalcy. Keep up your family’s usual dinner, homework and bedtime routine.

• Spend extra time together

This can foster your children’s sense of security. If your children have trouble sleeping, allow him/her to sleep with a light on or to sleep in your room for a short time.

• Encourage the expression of feelings 

Explain that it’s OK to be upset. Let your children write about or draw what he/she is feeling. Encourage time with friends. Physical activity might serve as an outlet for frustration.

• Take Action

 Consider ways to help victims and their families. Hold a service related to the tragedy. You might work with your children to write thank-you notes to first responders.